1) How do twins become conjoined?
All conjoined twins are identical, so that means that one sperm fertilizes one egg then on about the 4th day after conception the egg starts to split into two babies. It has from the 4th to the 11th day after fertilization to split into two babies if it doesn't finish by the 11th day they become conjoined.
2) Did you take fertility medication?
We did not take any kind of fertility medication. The Lord blessed us with these babies with out any medical intervention.
3) How are the twins conjoined?
They are conjoined from their chest, down to right above their umbilical cord. This is hard for some to picture so look at the picture on the right from the Buckles Twins (still living and separated, now age 4) that are conjoined like ours our. To see more pictures of them right after their birth to see how these conjoined twins look, bathe, drink a bottle, and how they are held, check this out.
Our twins also share a liver and a heart.
4) Where do you find clothes for them?
The way our babies are conjoined we will be able to buy outfits with buttons, dress them in there own outfits, then just button the front and the back together. I know it's hard to picture that so check out the following picture from the Buckles Twins:
That's what it looks like. The Buckles website has helped answer a lot of questions. Their twins were joined like ours are and they were able to be separated. I have talked to the mom, Melissa, on the phone, she is so sweet and answered a lot of questions for us.
There is also a different family that has conjoined twins just like ours. They are 2 now and she would buy 2 outfits and sew them together. She told me she would send me their clothes if we wanted them. What a huge blessing! Here is their website.
5) How did you find these other families of conjoined twins?
Jason's aunt Stephanie sent me a link to a private support group on Yahoo for families of conjoined twins. There are about 30 families on there. I have really enjoyed talking to them. It's been a huge blessing knowing that were not the only ones going through this. If you know anyone who is having conjoined twins or has had conjoined twins give them this website.
6) Will you have a c section?
I will be having a planned c section which is funny because we were planning on having a nice home birth. The Lord knows and He had other plans for this birth. I'm not sure when we will deliver. I'm going to ask the doctor when we go next Wednesday. I will be 37 weeks in the middle of December so I'm guessing it will be around then.
7) Vanessa, what do you do all day?
Kenya and I wake up around nine in the morning. I get us some breakfast something easy, then I lay down on the couch, check email, message Jason, do my Bible Study (please be praying I would be more dedicated in this), then I will sit on the floor and play with Kenya for a few minutes. Jason gets home early in the afternoon, so that is a HUGE blessing. He makes lunch for everyone, plays with Kenya, then we all take a nap (well sometimes)
Kenya is such an easy kid, she likes playing with all her toys which is nice because I don't have to constantly entertainer her.
8) Do you need any help?
We have needed a lot of help with getting Destinee to school, taking care of Kenya, cooking, cleaning...
Jason is the most amazing husband ever! He works full time then comes home and works full time around the house. He never complains about it either. He makes sure I keep resting even when I think I'm doing good and I will try to start doing stuff around the house but he wont let me. I love you babe, thank you for everything!
Our church family, blood family and friends have brought meals over for us which is such a huge blessing Thank you guys!
Jason's Mom came in town and spent a week helping us get stuff done around the house, she spent time with Kenya and cooked for us. Thank you Rose!
My Mom has also been helping a lot, we go to her house every Sunday for lunch before church. I call her if I need help with Kenya or just want company. Thanks Mom I love you!
Kenya also spends a few days a week at Jason's Aunt Ana and Uncle Dan's house. Kenya loves it.
We are down to one car and were not sure how we were going to get Destinee to school but some good friends of ours kids also go to her school, so she has been riding with them.
Oh and two of our friends have taken over the yard work, there is just not enough time in the day for Jason to do everything, so that has freed him up to do other things. Thank you Curt and Keith for mowing our yard!
Thank you everyone who has made us a meal we have really enjoyed all the different kinds of food. Also, thank you all for your prayers we have truly been blessed by all the love and support.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask. We love talking about Melody and Madison!